I've been asked a number of times what early signs of autism may look like. There are a wide range of characteristics and different families will have different experiences. I'll post a link for a short video I watched, which I feel is very incomplete, and then I'll post quotes from parents who replied to the video on an autism FB group I'm in called "Autism Mothers". I'll continue to add to this post as well.
"I knew. I cared & fought & it
took me 11 years to get the diagnosis & to get it confirmed. My Sun
was already diagnosed with other challenging conditions & I knew he
was autistic around about 4 but had acknowledged signs earlier."
"No early signs after my sons 1
yr shots he changed, had a horrible horrible rash his whole body, he
screamed all the time for over a week, I took him to every hosp around
here n doctor and none could tell me anything other than vaccine
reaction....when 2 came around we knew this was a life long thing now...
Before those shots he did everything "normal for age I had 3 girls
before him, they were all ok but before he was born I was made to take 2
rubella shots I believe affected him!"
"My son was 9months old when I
first asked the pedi about my concerns...he dismissed them for the next
6 months until he lost the only 4 words that he had...and my son was
diagnosed at 17mos (he has sense been diagnosed again by other hospitals
in Boston)"
"I knew something was wrong
right away too many things he wasn't doing ....he was over two when he
got diagnosed had early intervention by six months ...alot of signs"
"I knew there was something
from day 1 but didn't know it was autism - until he was diagnosed at 4 -
I was told he was behind because he was a "boy" I fought but didn't get
anywhere. He had early intervention when he was 15 mos old and still
not talking at all. Looking back makes me frustrated and upset because
people got upset with him - makes me have many tears ;("
"Loss of words around 18m"
"I noticed when he was 1. He didn't give eye contact and wouldn't follow simple instructions. At first I
thought it was his hearing but he passed his audiological test. The
family kept saying I was over exaggerating but in my heart/gut, I wanted
to keep trying to find out. Even his doctor told me he was just having a
hard time adapting to my other newborn at the time. I disagreed and
demanded that my son be evaluated. I took him and he was diagnosed at
age 1. He will be 3 soon. He's making progress and is involved in
various therapies. He's not yet completely verbal but he is very vocal."
"I knew something was
different around 6 months. He had very little eye contact. He wasn't
interested in anything going on around him. He was baby #4 so knew
something was wrong."
"From the age of around 2- 4 i
noticed that my son was a bit different than other kids in his age
group. At first i thought i thought he had adhd or was just a product
of my failed parenting skills. But when he got kicked out of school in Kindergarten we were advised to bring him to be put on adhd meds, the
doctor we saw mentioned that he showed signs of autism, i had no idea
what " autism" was. After extensive research on autism i realized that
the only characteristic he did not exhibit was non speech, he was
delayed speaking and he never crawled. From there we went to tulane in
new Orleans and were blessed to find a last year resident in the
behavior health dept. She was such a blessing.. we got his diagnosis and
things started getting easier, we were able to figure out what
interventions were best for my son and carry them over to his IEP at
school. The first few years were tough, getting things in line for him,
and myself coming to terms that my child was not normal. I am very
strong minded and i have fought tooth and nail against the school board
to get him the interventions he needed. He is 9 years old now and we
have moved to an area with a better school with a better program for
autistic children. Since we moved here in October 2011, he has
progressed so much, he can sound out words and is doing well in math
also. I am so proud of the achievements he has made, i never thought he
would be able to function independently in the world as an adult, at
this point, it may take him 5- 10 years loner than "the normal child"
but i have the utmost confidence that he will be able to be an
independent adult one day, and that is a great feeling. Even if i have
to build him an apartment in my back yard, just in case he has trouble
some days. I am so appreciative for this new public school he attends.
They have 8 different classes for all different levels of impaired kids.
At the other school he was stuck on Kindergarten material, now he is
almost doing 2nd grade work.. it may seem like small potatoes for a 9
year old to most people, but every time i hear him sounding out a word, i
am overjoyed. PEOPLE DONT GIVE UP ON YOUR KIDS, KEEP PUSHING THESE
SCHOOLS TO PROVIDE THE INTERVENTIONS YOUR KID NEEDS. Sometimes it may
not work, but at least you know you gave all you could to help them
excel."
"I closed my eyes to it at
first but my health nurse saw things before he was 12 months. Then once
the word was said as a maybe by the paed I still refused to consider the
possibility. Until I researched and researched and researched and
realised each child I read about was doing the exact same things as my
son. The spinning, the not listening, the not talking except his own
jargon, the hand flapping etc. I had to gather my evidence and went
through two years and three paediatricians before getting the diagnosis
we needed!!! I now look back to when he was just a very small baby and
realise he was very sensory even back then, with the sucking on my face
and pushing his whole body into my face, and just needing to put his
whole body into you or on you, or the constant need to be upside down or
look upside down. I remember at 10 months he was making himself go
cross eyed on purpose!! Also my son has started a new
thing just recently where he pulls his fingers in so they are bent at
the first knuckle then like clicks his hands. The OT said that's a need
for joint compression perhaps. Just wanted to share because it's new in
case anyone else sees this and he is 4 and 1/2 now :) "
"Taking him to the playground.
While other children were running and playing with each other Kaleb
would grab handfuls of pebbles and just watch them fall out of his hand.
Over and over again. But children with autism aren't loving they said.
They don't even notice when their mother leaves or returns to get them
they said. The funniest came from the schools diagnosticians is that
they hate crunchy foods! So my son couldn't be autistic because he loved
carrots and his mommy. I wanted to believe them so bad. But in my heart
I knew. A mother knows."
"Rilee was 14 months when he
woke in the middle of the night terrified and wouldn't stay in his room.
Over the next few months I kept taking him to his Ped because he was
changing losing words, all day tantrums, banging his head, wouldn't eat.
He failed a routine Autism screen at 18 months and was officially
diagnosed at 20 months he was diagnosed with Moderate to Severe Autism.
He is now 4 and his Diagnosis has changed to High Functioning Autism.
Most of the time people just think he is a Hyper little Brat"